Using nodejs async to process a large xml file (with relationships)-Collection of common programming errors

I have to process a large XML file (around 25 mb in size), and organize the data into documents to import into MongoDB.

The issue is, there are around 5-6 types of elements in the xml document, each with around 10k rows.

After fetching one xml node of type a, I have to fetch it’s corresponding elements of types b,c,d, etc.

What I am trying to do in node:

1. Fetch all the rows of type a.
2. For each row, using xpath, find its corresponding related rows, and create the document.
3. Insert document in mongodb

If there are 10k rows of type a, the 2nd step runs 10k times. I am trying to get this to run in parallel so that the thing doesn’t take forever. Hence, async.forEach seemed to be the perfect solution.

async.forEach(rowsA,fetchA);

My fetchrelations function is sort of like this

var fetchA = function(rowA) {
//covert the xml row into an object 
    var obj = {};
    for(i in rowA.attributes) {
    attribute = rowA.attributes[i];
    if(attribute.value === undefined) 
        continue;
    obj[attribute.name] = attribute.value;
    }
    console.log(obj.someattribute);
    //first other related rows, 
    //callback inserts the modified object with the subdocuments
    findRelations(obj,function(obj){
        insertA(obj,postInsert);
    });
};

After I try to run this, the console.log in the code only runs about once in every 1.5 seconds, not parallely for every row as I expected. I have been scratching my head and trying to figure this out for the past two hours, but I am not sure what I am doing wrong.

I am not very adept with node, so please be patient.